There seems to be a lot of interest in trying to date other nationalities as we are becoming a more globalised world where nothing is out of reach anymore a lot of men especially African American and generally other nationalities cannot understand why East Africans stick to their own and only date people from their own country. Actually I will rephrase my answer they date other nationalities but always marry their own people. I understand a lot of African Americans and black British do not understand such blatant racism here is the biggest response to this at the end of the day whites will all group us as black anyway so why cant you all just date one another. People do not understand that Africa is not a Continent were black people with not much clothes on live in harmony mixing together. To the outsider they look the same eat the same food and dance the same so whats the difference. The answer couldn't be any different. African society is the most complex society dating centuries to the first man there are historical tribes that have lived side by side and can trace the original homeland country in Africa.
Tribalism
In an average african country there are at least say 50 tribes these tribes occasionally marry and mix together but its very rare and African society is composed on tribes and each tribes stick together and do all they can to preserve their own culture and identity and race. So and Angolan will not just marry any Angolan he/she will attempt to marry their own tribe. This whole attitude of Africans all looking the same and dividing up the Continent is what has continued to cause wars up until this day. East Africans are well known to be the most tribalistic of all people in Africa especially Ethiopians Somalians and Kenyans.
Now when I here why dont Ethiopians or East Africans marry other African countries or other races the whole tribalism and cultural upbringing of the young girl by her family is the reason why most choose not to date outside their race. They are conditioned to not to marry outside their own tribe let alone country. It doesn't matter if you have the same complexion as them they are tribalistic people and show allegiance to their ancestral home lands which their grandparents left generations ago. It may seem sad but that is the honest truth, there are lots of mixed raced marriages where I see a lot of Ethiopian women with white men or other races but it is hugely frowned on by the parents of the Ethiopian who accept it but would not necessarily have wished that for their son or daughter. I sort of feel sorry for mixed raced children as most who are half white generally could pass as white people therefore grow up accepting their white heritage more as they fit in more than their Ethiopian heritage. People are less willing to accept them as full bloodied Ethiopians, going back to the whole emphasis of tribalism and its influence, the term Kilis is used to refer to these people.
A friend of mine who is Kenyan hesitantly introduced her African American boyfriend to her relatives in America, after all he openly welcomed her into his families home and they were welcoming and lovely. She was so embarrassed when a concerned cousin asked him the most pathetic question of what do you think of hustlers? he didn't know what to answer and looked shocked. Since that day my friend does not want her family near him until they get married and even she doesn't want them at the wedding either and told me she might opt for a Las Vegas wedding.
There is no such thing as open dating in East African families this whole western culture of bringing the boyfriend or girlfriend in the family home is not accepted unless he decides to marry the daughter by bringing his best men and asking the elders of the family. Most African Americans or black British or other races feel offended when their East African girlfriend refuses to take her boyfriend to their parents house unless they wanted to be greeted with a black eye by the brothers and fathers of family; it just does not work and its a cultural thing that has been passed down. That does not mean Ethiopian girls don't date, they do indeed but they will not openly date and publish their relationship at every opportunity which is encouraged in western society.
Tribalism
In an average african country there are at least say 50 tribes these tribes occasionally marry and mix together but its very rare and African society is composed on tribes and each tribes stick together and do all they can to preserve their own culture and identity and race. So and Angolan will not just marry any Angolan he/she will attempt to marry their own tribe. This whole attitude of Africans all looking the same and dividing up the Continent is what has continued to cause wars up until this day. East Africans are well known to be the most tribalistic of all people in Africa especially Ethiopians Somalians and Kenyans.
Now when I here why dont Ethiopians or East Africans marry other African countries or other races the whole tribalism and cultural upbringing of the young girl by her family is the reason why most choose not to date outside their race. They are conditioned to not to marry outside their own tribe let alone country. It doesn't matter if you have the same complexion as them they are tribalistic people and show allegiance to their ancestral home lands which their grandparents left generations ago. It may seem sad but that is the honest truth, there are lots of mixed raced marriages where I see a lot of Ethiopian women with white men or other races but it is hugely frowned on by the parents of the Ethiopian who accept it but would not necessarily have wished that for their son or daughter. I sort of feel sorry for mixed raced children as most who are half white generally could pass as white people therefore grow up accepting their white heritage more as they fit in more than their Ethiopian heritage. People are less willing to accept them as full bloodied Ethiopians, going back to the whole emphasis of tribalism and its influence, the term Kilis is used to refer to these people.
A friend of mine who is Kenyan hesitantly introduced her African American boyfriend to her relatives in America, after all he openly welcomed her into his families home and they were welcoming and lovely. She was so embarrassed when a concerned cousin asked him the most pathetic question of what do you think of hustlers? he didn't know what to answer and looked shocked. Since that day my friend does not want her family near him until they get married and even she doesn't want them at the wedding either and told me she might opt for a Las Vegas wedding.
There is no such thing as open dating in East African families this whole western culture of bringing the boyfriend or girlfriend in the family home is not accepted unless he decides to marry the daughter by bringing his best men and asking the elders of the family. Most African Americans or black British or other races feel offended when their East African girlfriend refuses to take her boyfriend to their parents house unless they wanted to be greeted with a black eye by the brothers and fathers of family; it just does not work and its a cultural thing that has been passed down. That does not mean Ethiopian girls don't date, they do indeed but they will not openly date and publish their relationship at every opportunity which is encouraged in western society.
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This is a load of crap, in the US it's no oddity to see Ethiopians dating whites of all sorts and marrying them as well. In fact, they do so much more often than they marry blacks. It's not just about nationality, there is underlying racism as well. It's considered more acceptable to be with a white person than someone who is black, even though Ethiopians are nationalistic.
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